Telling Lies in the Hope that They’ll Soon Be True…

Lies. After hearing this word, or being a victim of them, or having them come out of your own mouth, how do you feel? What feelings are associated with not telling the exact truth? Chances are, just naturally, they tend to lean towards the negative end of the spectrum. Even without knowing the complete story, we usually do not take kindly to lies and have an unflattering impression of the person doing the lying. These reactions don’t allow us to consider potential underlying reasons that the person has for stretching the truth. This information could prove valuable to better understand the other person and may even be turned into positive use.

That’s why I found refreshing the Globe and Mail article that offered another perspective and interpretation on reasons why people may lie or exaggerate. I particularly found enlightening one suggestion about how “lies” could actually reflect what the person is trying to achieve, or a goal to be obtained.

The article helped remind me not to jump on somebody, and too quickly form a negative impression of someone, when they lie. It gave me insight on how lying can be seen as part of the process towards something and that we should think of ways on how it can motivate.

With this in mind, would you be willing to forgive and understand some of the lies and exaggerations I’ve provided on various sections of this blog? Heheheh…..

-Patrick Law

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5 responses to “Telling Lies in the Hope that They’ll Soon Be True…

  1. Kent

    I guess the key point it “slightly exaggerate”. Although I think lying also has it’s place sometimes.
    Ultimately it comes down to intentions. Are you lying to save a second or other third party or just for pure selfish gratification? I’m definitely not a believer of a black and white world where lying is bad and truth is good. The world is full of so many shades of gray that sometimes we can’t tell one end from the other.

  2. Shkitty

    Pat you have a very interesting way of testing people’s reaction with your fibs. At least that’s my best guess on why you tell missinformation (GREAT word, use it) about yourself.
    As for this talking yourself UP thing, you are too modest and try not to let on that your skills are actually what they are. Thereby blowing people’s minds when they witness firsthand the talents that you possess.
    Heard an interesting bit on NFL radio the other day from a defensive back when describing Randy Moss’ half hearted efforts. I’m paraphrasing but he said ‘Moss will lull you into a false sense of confidence by thinking that you have him covered, that no matter what you heard, or what he might have been before, there’s no way he could ever turn it on at any moment and beat you. Then at the most opportune time for him, he’ll pick up his effort without warning and, unless you have help over the top, he’ll beat you for a long score.’
    Sneaky! Is he a liar? Me, I value honesty above all else but I’d lie to protect a secret that I promised to keep. You are deffinately a person that shows you are trustworthy and I never get offended by your odd ‘untruths’, feeling you’re just looking to get a reaction from me.

  3. Hi Kent,
    Yes, perhaps because of many religions insisting on black/white interpretation of world, maybe that is turning people off? And maybe could be a factor in the violence we see in our world today?

    And, with George Bush, I remember some lines from old speeches using phrases like “Axis of Evil”, “white knights”, “you’re either for us or against us”, etc…
    Could this dichotomous world view be a signficant reason why his administration is flailing with regards to repute in the foreign community?

    Hi Scott,
    Interesting…hehe…you always have an analogy or football comparison at the ready for any topic. By the way, for all those who don’t know, Scott is currently studying for his doctorate in NFL football with a minor in U.S. College football. His ‘professor’ and mentor is Pat Kirwan, via distance education, and Kirwan’s articles are required reading for Scott.

    Way to apply the concept of ‘lying’ and ‘exaggeration’ into an example with Randy Moss. I would have never made the connection without you mentioning it. Usually I’m not a fan of someone who doesn’t run all patterns full out, and not giving all out effort on every play, but your example reminds me of a technique that’s actually an accepted strategy: the ‘rope-a-dope.’ Is that another version of lying or exaggeration? Pretending for a purpose?

    Interesting…In the Moss scenario, instead of lying to boost yourself up, you lie to lower yourself on purpose in order to surprise someone later.

    And your last sentence about using lies to get an reaction, or to test something out…a kind of hypothesis…I like that too!

    This is a great topic! Let’s revisit in the future!

    -Patrick

  4. Clinton Skakun

    What type of pessimists would we be if we didn’t exaggerate haha. Thinking big. I really don’t have a big problem with it.

    In the end I think there’s a difference between telling a lie and making a good impression for your company. However if the company doesn’t do half of what they make out do, then in a way they are telling a lie.

  5. Hello Clinton,
    I always thought that optimists were the ones who would exaggerate more, hehe. Did you hear about the study where they found that people who were more happy actually distorted beliefs about themselves more? And that people who were more realistic showed more signs of depression? Hmmmm…

    But I like your spin on it with regards to pessimists, hehehe. Either way, I’m pumped about the possibilities as long as we’re using it for the right reasons.

    But I guess if use lying and exaggeration as a tool, we risk not following the business maxim of: “Under promise, over deliver.”

    But if we follow the positive use of lying to motivate, then perhaps we can adopt the maxim to our benefit by saying, “Over promise, over deliver?”

    -patrick

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